Monday, June 15, 2009

Home in the USA

We have arrived home after four months in China, and how fantastic it is to be here. It sort of makes the past four months seem like just a dream to us, as everything seems the same. The only real change is to look out at Eddy's house and realize our dog is with another family now.

Our first impression back on US soil is that the air is so pure and sweet smelling. The boys are playing with our outdoor riding toys (a yellow and red coupe car we call Herbie for Josh and Danny's mobilized jeep). They rode all over our back yard. Oh how I have missed this open space and to be able to know it is my own--to enjoy it with my family and not the closest 2,000 people as you would in China at a park. (actually 2,000 is probably way underestimating it)

Once inside it is hilarious to watch the boys playing with all the toys we had to leave behind. They are like kids in a toy store. Danny is going from one toy to another and asking who gave it to him. Then he goes into a heartfelt thank you to that person. It is absolutely adorable and nice to see such sincere gratitude.

Being in our house is strange. It feels a little like the mad hatter in that everything feels like it is at weird heights. In China the door knobs and light switches are really high and the counter tops are lower (especially in the bathrooms). Hence, everything seems either way to low or way to high.

The only other striking difference is to walk into what was the nursery--now called the playroom and see the crib. It amazes me that we left with Josh really still being a baby and Danny being a toddler and we arrive home with a toddler and a young boy. Yikes...time goes too fast.

We look forward to these upcoming months with our family and friends. We know that it will go quickly, but it will be fantastic. There is nothing like living in another country to really appreciate how truly and absolutely blessed we are here in the United States. May God continue to bless this great nation, now and forever more.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Surrounded by Suitcases and Getting Excited

I am sitting in the playroom surrounded by suitcases and I can bearly contain my excitement. In two days we will be heading back to the US for two months. It will be a whirlwind trip, and Dustin has to work most of the time we are home, but it will be just fantastic to be back home again.

Thankfully, the good Lord has brought us all to a place where we will have things to look forward to upon our return here to China in August. I am also grateful that when we return, it will be to our home that is now mostly furnished (I at least have all the kitchen essentials, bedding, and towels).

Our exciting news here is that we finally have pictures on our walls, so the house is finally looking more lived in. Three months of white walls are finally over. We had bought pictures in Hangzhou and some of the pictures we had brought from home are finally framed and hanging in our house. It took this long to find someone to frame the pictures, and then another day for someone to come assist us in hanging the pictures.

It turns out that all our walls are cement, and our initial attempt to hang pictures resulted in only a very bent nail. Thankfully our new ayi had a friend come over and help us drill all the holes (not worth trying to buy a drill here).

Our ayi continues to be a delight to have around. She has assisted me in a lot of the packing, although most of the suitcases are packed with other suitcases (We will have a full load of things coming back with us in August--like as many cherrios as we can pack and carry--these are still impossible to find here).

Dustin and I are really looking forward to seeing family and friends, and eating some of our favorite foods that are just impossible to find here. (I did just eat at a fairly good "diner" for lunch today, and I think they do a decent job on American classics).

My goal is to be packed mostly by tonight, so that we can just enjoy the pool and relax before we head on to the long plane ride. Tomorrow is to be 91, and it is already humid (I would say crazy humid, but I have a feeling this is nothing like it is going to be when we return in August). I am actually a little concerned that the weather is going to feel cool to us when we get home, but I guess we will adjust.

We are praying that the boys do well on the plane (that they will have the Cars movie like last time) and that the jet lag will not be so bad. Most people have told me that what we experienced coming is about the average--4 days until your schedule adjusts.

Overall, we are counting down the minutes until we land in Indianapolis, and we are going to cherish every mintue we have in the US with family and friends.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Saying Goodbye to Friends

It has come as a great shock and with even greater sadness that we had to say goodbye to our closest friends here in China. Although we only met the Shockleys three months ago, they are among our dearest friends, and I pray they will always remain that way. We found out today, and they found out three days ago, that they will be moving to just north of London England. The unfortunate part, among many, is that they will be gone before we come back from the States. Our visit today, when we found out about the move, is our last chance to be together.

I am heart sick for both of us. They had truly become like family here to us. It is hard to describe, but the experience of being far from home and in a foreign country such as China, bonds you really quickly to people. Even Danny is extremely close to them. I had prepared myself for having friends move away, as this is part of life as an expatriate--people constantly moving in and out, but I was not expecting this one so quickly. Quite frankly Dustin and I are in shock. I am heart sick for them, as they had just gotten resettled back here, and are now in for a major move. Yet God is faithful, and he will provide for them and for us.

While this is so extremely hard, I feel so blessed to have met them and to be able to continue to stay in touch through e-mail and calls.

Dustin and I have always wanted to head to London, I guess we will be going sooner than we thought....

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Funny Sites on the Road and Other Fascinating Things of China

So living here in China, we have finally adjusted to the point where seeing grown men pee on the street does not phase me, traffic that is horrendous is just normal, and crazy sitings just bring a little interest to the drive around town, and I can nearly say that squat pots are managable (Although I must say I am looking forward to heading back to the US where you are guaranteed what Danny likes to term "normal" toilets--I try and correct by calling them western toilets just to be politically correct--yet when you see a squat pot, you might agree with Danny).

Here are just a few funny sites you will see on a normal day driving down the street here in Shanghai:

The Business Card Delivery System

This funny site can be seen on any large street--at least two lanes worth of traffic. The person has been hired to pass out business cards of some local business. The funny/crazy part is how they go about handing out these cards. They do not walk between the cars trying to see if you want to take one. No, they stand in the middle of speeding on coming traffic and reach out as you are whizzing by at 20 or more miles per hour and attempt to stick the card in your window (they are shooting for the trim that holds the window as you open and close it). It is amazing to watch this and I always wonder how many people lose an arm, etc. in attempting to get you most likely do not want or need. The last person that put one on our car we were going at least 15-20 miles per hour and he slammed the card down so hard on our window, I am sure he either broke his finger or sprained it terribly.

The Selling of Goods at Traffic Lights

I have seen this in other places, so the fact that they are selling here is not so funny as what they are selling. You can get everything from a seat cushion, a bouncy flower (sort of like those bobble head dolls) to a taser. Yes, a tazer. What a cop would carry for their protection. I am not sure how they are able to sell such an item, but it is interesting to say the least.

Trucks and the Loads that they Carry

China is notorious for their deadly traffic accidents. This we are finding is due to more than the fact that no one seems to understand the rules of the road, or follow and enforce them. The other main factor we are finding, is there seems to be no rules on what trucks are able to carry, and how they go about carry their load. First example: A huge front loader on a drop deck trailer (thankfully it was not a flat bed, or this front loader would have either been in the cab with the drivers or on top of the car behind it). They apparently do not require anyone to tie anything down here when delivering. So we were heading to the store, and we pull up next to a front loader on a trailer that had indented middle section where the front loader was resting. We were excited to see it as Danny loves anything to do with construction. What I was shocked by was that there was nothing holding this front loader down or in place on the truck, and this front loader was huge. We were in stop and go traffic, and every time the truck stopped, the front loader moved forward and then back. The only thing that kept it on was the indented middle section of the truck bed that it rested on. It was so crazy, even our driver made a concerted effort to get ahead of it in the traffic. Second example: One can load their truck with products as high as they can get it and still have the truck move down the road. It again is option to tie any of it down. I have seen dirt, rugs, rocks, boxes, you name we have seen it, piled so high it is a wonder the little truck can move down the road, and there are no covers on it, often no ties--or ties that do not look like they would hold anything. We are amazed by their amazement over accidents.

The Taxi Mopeds

In Shanghai there are normal taxis, and then there are guys just sitting on street corners on their mopeds. These we have come to find out are taxis as well. You can hire one of these men to take you wherever you would like to go. This is quite common among Chinese people--I have yet to see a foreigner traveling this way (maybe on their own moped to the Starbucks and back, but not on the main roads). The part that is always the funniest is that it is usually a group of people that take this mode of transportation. So, you can see as many as four people riding these mopeds--all smashed together--heading to their destination. This is quite a site, as if you have seen a moped (think bigger than dirt bike but smaller than your small motorcycle) and this is the seat that four people are sitting on.

The delivery Mopeds and Bikes

In Shanghai there are delievery trucks, and then there are people delivery items using their mopeds and bikes. It is not an unsual site to see a man or women (gender does not seem to matter even when the load is really large) biking carrying long pipes (and I mean long--at least an entire bike length in front and in back of them), or using a cart attachment with it piled excessively high with boxes, or empty plastic jugs. I am often wonder how they are able to move down the street, let alone all the way to their destination. Today we saw a man riding a moped with empty water jugs (think office water cooler size) all strapped to the back--at least 8. It is a craft just in how they get everything to balance and stay on.

The Waving Bus/Van/Car

The boys have come to expect this type of greeting on the highways, and I am sure will be shocked when people in the US do not behave this way, as they have become accustomed to it. We can be driving along, and as soon as the driver, or passengers see the children in our van, they begin waving and motioning and pulling their children up and to the window for a glimpse of Danny and Josh. What is often funny is that it is not just a little wave or recognition. No, the waving smiling and gesturing goes on down the road until we separate from the vehicle in some way. I often have seen drivers completely distracted and looking in the back seat at the boys rather than watching where they are driving.

So, I hope you are able to picture some of what we have witnessed here in our daily lives, and found some amusement in it.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

The Newfound Adjustment Right Before We Leave

Today I find we are adjusting fairly well to life here. The things that struck us or quite frankly horrified us just a couple of weeks ago has faded into "thats just life here in China." (See my next blog for some funny examples of this).

This morning we headed off to a newcomer's meet and greet at the clubhouse. This is the first one they have had since our arrival, so I was interested to see who we would run into. The only unfortunate part was that Dustin came with and was the only male there. (We will know next time for such an event and let him stay home). We did meet a nice group of people. For whatever reason, most of the women happened to be from Germany. There was one person from Sweden, one from Australia and one other women from the US. One nice aspect was I was able to connect with a women that I have run into while walking around our community. She is from Germany, and her daughter will be in Danny's class this fall.

We came home to a wonderful lunch made by our ayi. We had asked her to cook two lunches for us a week, so we can get the boys introduced to authentic chinese food. She made us chicken fried rice and it was fantastic. While I enjoy this dish in the US, it is just so much better here, it is amazing.

After the boys woke from their naps, we headed to the clubhouse to find out some information about fall sports and I thought I would let the kids play at the indoor playground for awhile before dinner. On our way out the door we ran into one of our neighbors and he invited our family over for dinner on Friday night. He is from Denmark and his wife is from Beijing. We had a very nice conversation, and then the boys and I continued on to the clubhouse.

I should have heeded my gut feeling based on the level of noise coming from the indoor playgroud that we should avoid it like the plague, but I felt like I promised Danny, so we headed there anyways. Boy was this a mistake. I think I have mentioned before that some parents choose to, well, not parent thier children here, or they don't parent as well as being physically absent, leaving an ayi in their place. This of course results in children that are bratty, spoiled, and terribly bad behaved (and this is me describing it in quite pleasant and nice terms). Unfortunately, it seems we chose to go to the indoor park when everyone of these children were present. What resulted I will describe to you, but lets just say I did not make any new friends, however, my children are safe and in one piece.

So, I only ventured in, because most of the children (ages rangeing from 4-6) were located in the small kids area (more Josh's age stuff for tumbling, etc.), so I felt it fairly safe entering the other area. Danny and Josh went to the toys that when you get on them they bounce backwards and forwards. There I met a nice mom from Canada, however our conversation was cut short by the children running through the area carrying large floor tiles, waving them into each other's faces. The mom I was talking with agreed with my shock and dismay that none of the childrens' mother's or ayis came to correct this bahavior. I decided though not to get involved as they were not at that moment invading our area, or threatening Danny with their bahavior.

However, when the children bagan making their tiles go airbourne, I quickly changed my mind. One child was actually already hurt by this action, but still no mother's came over to stop anything. So....I marched up to each child (Josh on my hip) and grabbed their tile out of their hands telling them they were through playing with them. I actually raised my voice at a child picking up a new one to "put it down." I am sure that if any of the mothers visiting in the sitting area (a section of large steps, sort of like theater seating, at the other end of the play area) actually were paying enough attention to see anything, I have not made any new friends by interferring with their children. However, when children are getting hurt and my children are in danager, my mama bear protecting her baby bears instincts just take over. After getting those children to stop throwing things around, I took Josh over to the slide. I do not know if it was the excitement, or the fact that the kids got really loud after that, but Josh burst into tears. (This of course was right as the new mom I had met was trying to tell me about a group of moms that get together in the community). We quickly had to leave, and I noticed the other mother did not hang around either (she was gone before we even had our shoes back on) and I was so furious at the lack of parenting and the children run amuck that I was muttering all the way out of the area.

Needless to say we will not be returning to that area anytime soon (the other moms are probably quite relieved about this), or at least we are going during the morning when the other kids are in school. Thankfully Dustin wanted to go out to dinner because I was still fuming and processing through things when we got home.

I guess I just do not understand why people believe children raising themselves is a good idea, and I am finding this is my greatest pet peeve in life or at least to life here in China.

So while it ended on a sour note concerning some people in our community, overall and even through it all, I met some very nice people and look forward to getting to know them better when we come back in August.

Monday, June 1, 2009

The Two Week Countdown Begins

Today is the first day of June. I thought this month would never arrive, and then all of a sudden here it is, and it feels like our time here so far has flown past. We have a busy two weeks before we leave for the US. I am trying to connect with friends we have met here one more time before heading back, and there are a couple of places I need to go. Therefore, these two weeks should fly by.

It was great to have our ayi back (she does not work on the weekends). I am amazed how in just a week, I am already so happy with having her here. She makes the house so clean and organized, and allows me to focus my energies on other things. Today I was able to just sit and listen to Dustin about his work, and I did not have the list of the things I need to get done going off in the back of my head—mainly because Fang (pronounced Fong) does these tasks now. It was great. What an amazing blessing of living here.

As we were all a little tired by the end of the day, we decided to do movie night. Dustin and I were so excited that the corn I found in the store actually did pop up and make fairly decent popcorn. (This is always our treat on movie nights). We are enjoying the time here together, as unfortunately, when we get to the US Dustin will have a fair amount of work and travel to do, so we will be a little short on our family time. So, we are stocking up as much as possible right now.